WELCOME TO THE VERBAL ABUSE SITE—
A huge Thank You to all the wonderful women who came to CLARITY 2014!
Latest BOOK RELEASE: Victory Over Verbal Abuse: A Healing Guide to Renewing Your Spirit and Reclaiming Your Life
ABOUT VERBAL ABUSE
Verbal abuse creates emotional pain and mental anguish. It is a lie told to you or about you. Generally, verbal abuse defines people, telling them what they are, what they think, their motives, and so forth. The best way to deal with a verbally abusive relationship, whether you are the target of verbal abuse or the perpetrator, is to find out everything you can about verbally abusive relationships and their dynamics. Usually one person is blaming, accusing, even name calling, and the other is defending and explaining.
There is a lot of information on this site. Please don’t miss the links both at the left side-bar and near the bottom of this page. As you find out about verbal abuse, you can find out what is ‘wrong’ with people who are verbally abusive, and what you might do about it.
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Most people targeted by verbal abuse try to explain to the abuser why what they’ve just heard is not true or not okay. They explain themselves because they believe the perpetrator is rational and can hear them and the relationship will then get better. Then they usually hear more verbal abuse, for instance, “You’re too sensitive.” At that point they don’t usually realize that they have just been defined, and, therefore, verbally abused again.
Since the target of verbal abuse is often blamed, ignored, or yelled at, s/he may have difficulty recognizing just what is going on in the relationship.
I hope that if you suspect verbal abuse in your relationship, that you will read all five of my books. Each is a part of the picture.
What Verbal Abuse Is
This site is dedicated to the recognition and prevention of verbal abuse in homes, schools and workplaces. Verbal abuse includes withholding, bullying, defaming, defining, trivializing, harassing, diverting, interrogating, accusing, blaming, blocking, countering, lying, berating, taunting, put downs, abuse disguised as a joke, discounting, threatening, name-calling, yelling and raging.
The Verbal Abuse web site ushers in a new millennium of increased awareness. It reflects our growing knowledge of verbal abuse--one of the worst forms of abuse anyone can experience in any ongoing relationship or association. It serves as a link to resources and information about verbal abuse. The site will grow and change as we gather information. Indeed, it was only as recently as 1992 that verbally abusive relationships were named and described.
We invite you to contribute to our collective knowledge and resources. If you have a resource that you think should be included on the Verbal Abuse site, please let us know.
Explore the site by clicking on items of interest in the navigation bar on the left. Some will give you drop-down menus with new choices.
Don’t Miss This: (To exit any of the following links please hit your back button.)
A SERIES OF TALKS by Patricia Evans— YouTube Channel— http://www.youtube.com/patriciaevansbooks
ARTICLE BY Patricia Evans, WHEN WORDS HURT— MERMAIDS OF THE LAKE
POWERFUL VIDEO ON VERBAL ABUSE http://www.guardian.co.uk/media/2008/dec/02/advertising-domestic-violence
CHILDREN SPEAK OUT—PBS DOCUMENTARY ABOUT CUSTODY GONE WRONG— BREAKING THE SILENCE
Psychology Today: Escape From an Emotionally and Verbally Abusive Father
by Susanne Babbel, Ph.D., M.F.T.
FRANCE PASSES LAW ON PSYCHOLOGICAL VIOLENCE: http://www.guardian.co.uk/world/2010/jun/29/france-outlaws-psychological-violence
“...the main abuse helpline for women in France received 90,000 calls a year."Of these, 84% concern psychological violence,"..."We have introduced an important measure here, which recognises psychological violence, because it isn't just blows [that hurt] but also words," Nadine Morano, the minister for family affairs, told the lower house of parliament.”
A NEW SITE FOR MEN ONLY: Men Ending Verbal Abuse And Control MEVAC has been created for men seriously trying to change.
Mack, who created MEVAC, says: “There is hope for you! Finding out that you are a verbal abuser and controller is a bit like falling down the rabbit hole. Your entire reality is shaken to the core. To find out that your relationships are broken, that those around you are frightened by you, that something is horribly wrong with you and the way you view and communicate with the world is a very scary and life changing event....We will help you. Once you have accepted the truth and began to walk down the right road to reforming yourself you will begin to find out that real relationships based on trust, respect and love are so much more rewarding.”